As a mom with five children, my family is constantly on my mind. Whether it’s the practical needs of feeding them and making sure they get enough sleep or the spiritual aspect of striving to train them up in the way they should go and praying over them like crazy.
I think often of the verse:
Psalm 127:4-5 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
My upmost goal is to raise a quiver of straight arrows, and to launch well.
Launching well to me means that when it’s time to send my kids out, they will be committed to the Lord, and strong in their faith. In these early years, the training years, (birth-18) they are like delicate flowers, just springing up. A small, young flower cannot handle the trampling of feet or heavy, heavy rains, or drought. It has to be protected in order to grow strong and stand on it’s own. In the same way, our kids need these years to be protected and trained in righteousness so when the time comes they can stand alone.
Part of this training in righteousness comes from the local body of believers. Over the past year Keith and I have been convicted that we needed to be attending a service with all of our children, together as a family. To those in small churches this probably seems like a no-brainer, but in bigger congregations where children’s programming is abundant, it becomes pretty easy to become scattered as a family on Sundays.
There are two main reasons we find family fellowship to be beneficial, one is that it welcomes children into the congregation. When our kids sit with us, they feel part of what is going on at the church. They hear the announcements, the praises, the prayer requests, what’s going on in missions, etc. When we sing together, pray together, and sit under the teaching of the Word together, it gives a sense of unity. That we are in this together, as a team.
The Bible says, “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Proverbs 13:20
Another reason is that while we understand it is beneficial to have friends and relate to peers, we also understand that should not be the primary source of interaction or influence on our kids. We find it a good balance to have them attend Sunday school with other kids, and then church with us. This way they get the blessing of peer friendships in the church, but also the interaction with adults necessary for growth and discipleship.
When Keith and I were first married, I wouldn’t have even considered taking all our kids into church. Our youngest was only three, and I was adjusting to being a mom of five kids instead of two. But we are in a season of life now where things have settled and God has moved us toward this. I think often how wonderful it is that grace is both a covering and a strength. It covers when there are season of struggle, and it strengthens in seasons of growth and steps toward holiness.
So, if you are in a season of struggling or getting settled, you are covered. There is only grace.
If you are in a season where God is calling you higher, He will grant you the strength. There is only grace.
As with anything, don’t take someone else’s opinion as your call. Pray, and search the Scripture to find out what God says.
If you currently do church together as a family, or want to try, I have included some free sermon note printables for children.
❤ Thanks for reading, friends.